“Close your eyes and remember that moment you first held your new born child. Their skin against yours, their scent – and how in that moment it seemed all the worlds problems faded away; and you were overcome by emotion, and you were overcome by love – the purest form of love.”
The love between parent and child is a beautiful and instinctive phenomena that we see in humans and also throughout the animal kingdom. Living for many years on a farm it always amazed me how if ever the very young calves or lambs wandered too far or out of sight of their mothers, their mothers would frantically cry out until they were reunited. Several times I witnessed a calf still born, or born too weak to live and observed the mother cow in distress. Even without the same level of mental capacity as humans, it was just instinctive for these amazing creatures to love their young, just as we do.
This instinctive behaviour, love, is what keeps our young safe and is the motivation for us as parents to nurture and fend for our children until they are mature enough to fend for themselves. And even then, once they are grown and independent, that love continues…it is life long. My mother would always say to me, “it doesn’t matter how old you are, you will always be my baby”.
The behaviours of love
Love is so many things, but when you observe the pure love between parent and child you see it coupled with certain behaviours such as protectiveness, nurturing and self sacrifice. It doesn’t matter if it’s 3 am in the morning and you’ve had no sleep, the moment you hear your baby in distress, you sacrifice your own needs and feelings and you do what it takes to fulfill the needs of your child.
Love remains unchanged
And whilst the world around us so rapidly changes and evolves, this instinctive love seems to remain much the same. This love between parent and child is a truly a beautiful thing – it cannot be expressed in words but has to be experienced to be understood. It is priceless, it is eternal, it is the purest form of love.